Healthy Relationship 101
Everyone deserves to be treated with respect and love.

Are you in a healthy relationship?
Healthy relationships look like:
- Both partners treat each other with equality, love and respect.
- You’re honest with your partner and trust them.
- You talk openly about problems and listen to one another.
- You respect each other’s opinions.
- You and your partner solve problems without violence.
- You and your partner keep relationships with friends and family outside of your own relationship.
- You talk about birth control choices together and both consent to sexual activity.
What is an abusive relationship?
In an abusive relationship, one partner tries to maintain power and control over the other person by limiting their freedom and isolating them from friends and family. Domestic violence is a pattern of abuse that occurs over a period of time.
Signs you are in an abusive relationship:
- Your partner monitors your calls, messages and social media.
- Your partner tries to keep you from seeing your friends and family.
- Your partner tells you how you should dress, who you can and cannot talk to, and where you can and can’t go.
- Your partner never apologizes for their bad behavior, and instead finds ways to put the blame on you.
- Your partner controls the household finances without discussion, including taking your money or refusing to provide money for necessary expenses like food or rent.
Resources
If you, or someone you know, have experienced any of these behaviors, help is available.
Check out the most immediate or 24/7 services below or view a complete list of resources in our Get Help section.

County of Kaua'i
YWCA of Kaua‘i (24/7)
- DV Crisis Hotline: (808) 245‐6362
- DV Shelter Hotline: (808) 245‐8404
City & County of Honolulu (Island of O'ahu)
Domestic Violence Action Center
- Helpline: (808) 531‐3771
- Text: (605) 956‐5680
- Chat: www.domesticviolenceactioncenter.org
Child and Family Service (24/7)
- DV Shelter: (808) 841‐0822
Parents and Children Together (24/7)
- DV Shelter: (808) 526‐2200
- M‐F: 8:30am‐8:00pm, Sat: 8:00am‐12:00pm
- Counseling Center: (808) 527‐4470
County of Maui (Moloka'i, Lana'i, Maui)
- Maui DV Shelter: (808) 579‐9581 (open 24/7)
- Maui TRO Assistance: (808) 446‐7379 (M‐F: 8:00am‐4:00pm)
- Lana‘i DV Shelter: (808) 563‐0216 (open 24/7)
Moloka‘i Community Service Council (24/7)
- DV Hotline: (808) 567‐6888
Child and Family Service Maui (24/7)
- Crisis Hotline: (800) 753‐6879
County of Hawai'i
Child & Family Service (24/7)
- East Hawai’i DV Shelter: (808) 959-8864
- West Hawai’i DV Shelter: (808) 322-7233
LGBTQAI+
- LGBTQ+ healthcare provider on Oahu
- Honolulu & Waianae Offices: (808) 744‐2543
Hawai‘i LGBTQ+ Legacy Foundation
- One‐stop LGTBQ+ resource center
- (808) 369‐2000
Sexual Assault
Sex Abuse Treatment Center (24/7)
- Statewide Hotline: (808) 524‐7273
YWCA of Kaua‘i (24/7)
- Sexual Assault Hotline: (808) 245‐4144
Child and Family Services (24/7)
- Crisis Mobile Outreach: (808) 753‐6879
- Maui Sexual Assault Center: (808) 873‐8624
Military
Military One Source (24/7)
- Toll Free: (800) 342‐9647
- TTY: Dial 711 then (800) 342‐9647
Legal
- Oahu: (808) 536‐4302
- Neighbor Islands: (800) 499‐4302
National
National Domestic Violence Hotline
- Open 24/7 and available in 200+ languages
- (800) 799‐7233
- TTY: (800) 787‐3224
- Chat: www.thehotline.org
- 24/7 hotline with trans operators
- (877) 330‐6366
National Deaf Domestic Violence Hotline
- 24/7 Videophone: (855) 812‐1001
- Live Chat: www.thedeafhotline.org
- Contact an advocate by email: nationaldeafhotline@adwas.org
Brochure

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